The talk didn't go so well. They looked at me with diverse stares. Everything from stark horror, to hanging their head embarrassment. One even said to me, "Mom, I'm just not ready to hear this yet". She was 16! The other said in a horrified tone, "Mom, they must have thought of a better way to do it than that by now!" Um, not that I know of son but, perhaps we can look for another book on that in the future.
Suffice it to say, I could see that they were not emotionally or age appropriately ready for, the talk, at that point in there lives, and I told them we'd come back to it later when they were more ready. "If, in the meantime," I said, "you have any questions or hear anything on the playground that seems problematic for you, just come talk to me."
Do you think it's possible I shelter my kids too much? Do you get a notion that they are slow learners? Don't answer that.
Whilst cleaning and organizing my daughters' closet after moving in to the cottage, we ran across THE BOOK. Although the three I have gathered here, are now ages 23, 20, and 16, I decided maybe now would be a good time to approach the subject again. After all, one has graduated from University, one is about to complete his second year at University, and the baby is in high school. Surely now would be the best time to tell them the facts of life. Certainly they are ready now! After all, they're out there in the big world every day now and there are some things they just need to know. It was now, or wait until their wedding days and I thought to myself, "You'll be much too busy dealing with guests, catering people and so on, on the wedding days of your children, to tell them about, the facts of life."
So, I figure in 10 years or so I'll try again. One thing you learn as you grow older and wiser is that, it's never wise to rush things. Life goes by fast enough. Amen.
Love you more than all the chickens laying eggs, right now!