08 July 2015

Cure For Empty Nest Syndrome









This is my family.  The photo was taken two years ago on the baptism day of our two youngest grandchildren.  It was before our youngest son deployed to Afghanistan and before our ninth grandchild was born.  It was the last time we had a family photo where all were present.  Life has been happening at a frenetic pace and instead of writing about it, I've been living it.  I've been a very bad blogger/JOURNALER/KEEPER OF THE FAMILY HISTORY.

My kids have become adults and  moved on from the cottage.  I'm lucky we are such a close, loving family and they love me so much I live in a destination city by the sea because, they all come back to visit and I get to see them on a somewhat regular basis.

Some people take their midlife crisis (empty nest syndrome) to the next level by having an affair, buying a fancy car or getting a face lift.  I just heard on the news about some crazy lady that had a baby at the age of 67.  So my decision, that started with a little wish, about a year ago, seems pretty tame.  A puppy!  I will admit that now I have this puppy the word tame, is relative.

He's a chocolate and white parti, Cockapoo.  Of course he is!  His birthday was 22 February, 2015.  We brought him home after he was weaned from his mommy, but still he only weighed 4 lb. and just like new babies do, he slept a lot.  This penguin soon became his favorite toy.  He's three times the size of his favorite toy now.  I spent the last days of springtime just staring at him, petting his downy soft fur, SERIOUSLY downy soft; and falling in love.

If I would have chosen a female pup, I already had a name all picked out.  But this is the pup who called to me.  In a big box with all his litter mates he was the one who stood in the back.  All the others fell over each other to get attention and pets.  This was no problem for me, petting puppies is very high on my list of favorite things to do.  But this guy here, he watched closely as if he already knew his fate.  When I called to him he happily bounced right up for his cuddles and licked my face with his little sandpaper tongue.  This happened over and over so of course it took me hours and a little bit of agony to choose.  How can you possibly choose from five perfect, precious, puppies?

What finally got me, but only second after his "cool" attitude, was this.  Yep, my boy has a baby blue.  Remarkably,  just one.  One is blue, the other is green.  They remind me of the colors of the sea.

Also, I could never resist freckles.  We call them 'angel kisses' around here.

Because of that baby blue we considered calling him Frank, as in, Old Blue Eyes Sinatra.  We added Liam because it's one of my favorite Irish names and actors (Neeson).  I decided Liam was out because I'm still hoping one of my kids will have a son named Liam someday.  We ended up with about six names and my phone was blowing up as my kids, friends and family called to weigh in.  Finally I had to stop the madness.  I texted my niece Kelsey who has exquisite taste in doggy names, (Einstein and Eleanor) just to name a couple.  I always defer to to the kids in my life whom I like best at the moment, because that's the kind of mature, rational, decision making person I am.  Kelsey is always very high on my list, so in adding that to her already proven record and success in dog naming, I gave the honors to her, and she did me proud.  Henceforth, and not without much forethought and struggle, his name shall be - Kai Francis.  My dogs always have a middle name, you know, so when they're naughty you can use the whole name and they know you mean business!  Francis was chosen for my favorite saint.  The saint of the animals - St Francis.  I wear a St Francis medal around my neck that I got in Italy and I've worn it for forty-five years.  I've never lost it once which is more than I can say for some people that I won't mention.  Okay!  I'll mention him.  My husband has lost his wedding ring three (3) times.  I know there is one on the bottom of the sea somewhere, but the rest are just somewhere out there... It's okay though because we just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary so I think I get to keep him.

A name referring to a boy with everything good in a person. Kai's are huggable, sweet, romantic, talented, and smart.
They have great hair, a playful personality, and they're everything good you can think of. Being humble, usually they don't admit or see how amazing they are. Kais are guys with good senses of humor and are fun to be around. Kais the nicest people you will ever meet. They'll be your shoulder to cry on, and they never break promises. With beautiful souls, and eyes full of wisdom, you'll know right away that they know a lot. Girls, if you ever find a Kai, hold on to him tight, because you'll never find someone as amazing as him ever again. Kais only come every once in a lifetime. With a big heart in his chest, and he'll accept who you are, what you do, and support you. You'll swear that he's an angel sent from above. He's a Kai. Simple as that.
Human A "Your boyfriend is such a Kai."
Human B "I know (: I'm so glad I met him. He's everything I've ever wanted."

Our sweet guy turned out to be the Alpha Dog.  "I am Kai, here me roar!!!"  At 4 lb. he would stand up on his hind legs and extend his little body as far as he could, making sure the other dogs knew this fact.  It worked.  They let him boss them around, and after a little extra love from mommy and some pep talks, they have accepted Kai into the clan.

 He has his very own toys, however...


 He prefers shoes.  He's eaten at least 3 pair of my flip-flops and a couple of work boots, two blankets, my favorite nighty, an earring I felt very sentimental about (right out of my ear), and a peach pit.  We call him the Hoover because wherever he goes he just keeps his mouth to the ground and hoovers anything and everything right in there.


He's a furry, face tickling, snuggled with VERY sharp teeth.  At 4 1/2 months old he hasn't lost those needle sharp teeth yet and let me tell you, that's something I forgot about puppies.  My poor body looks like a giant teething ring.  It's like getting your blood drawn 40 x per day.  On the upside, when he's tired, he is a great cuddler.  This is my son Cooper and his friend Danica in a snuggly moment with Kai.




Puppies are exhausting but like childhood, puppyhood doesn't last very long.  He's already potty trained and sleeps through the night.  When he's busy, which is for many hours a day now, we go on lots of walks and Bailey and Kai have discovered tug-a-war, which poops both of them out, much to Kieran's delight.



At the ripe old age of 16 in doggy years, some of us are just too old for these shenanigans anymore and have to take more naps.  Kieran still knows how to find the most comfy spot in the house.  He's up just high enough that the pup can't reach him.  Just looking at that photo makes me want a nap, how about you?


We've had lots of visitors this summer and my grandson Finnegan got to experience the joys of the puppy following him all around the yard. If one of them didn't think of something to get into, the other did.  Boy oh boy did they have fun!

Climbing up to the fountain to play in the water -

 Kai figured out quickly how to park himself under the high chair and catch all the scraps.  Finn is a very good sharer.


 Did I mention that like all my cockapoo's, Kai loves the beach!

 Picking oranges and eating them straight off the tree was a California delight.

Going for a ride in Cooper's backpack is a favorite treat.


So last weekend, Bailey Scott, Kieran St Patrick and Kai Francis came with us when we spontaneously (in about 20 minutes) decided to rent a cabin about 2 hours away in the mountains of Idylwilde.  We googled dog friendly cabins and were on the road in no time.  We took our puppies and walked in the woods.  We enjoyed good books,  exploring the town, fine (doggy friendly) restaurants and even a mountain rain storm.  A real coo for a beachy Southern California couple.

Puppy's mean a lot of work and responsibility, a lot more love and life around your house. Since this is the last time I'll probably ever start with a little puppy again, I'm enjoying every minute.  I highly recommend a new puppy for Empty Nest Syndrome.  Just remember, they are HIGH energy, and $$$$ for food, vet, toys, and supplies.  Be a good puppy owner and you will have a wonderful friend who will love you unconditionally and protect you with his life.  I hope you're all having a relaxing summer doing all the things you love!

Love you more than all the puppy teething I've suffered over the last couple months!

Tia


From our Cottage By The Sea - sweet, good night.







7 comments:

Rosemary Nickerson said...

Tia!! At last! I thought you had disappeared forever. One does forget how much work a new puppy can be. Ours is now 6 with a life expectancy of another 10 to 14 years. I doubt I'll ever do it again. I am so happy you have taken on another little one. I will live vicariously thru yours. ha ha.

Sharon de Jager said...

Ditto! I kept tuning in to see if you had posted...so glad you did....I almost have empty nest syndrome, I've got one son at home and he'll be here until he finishes college and then goes on to uni (I hope!) so still a hustle and a bustle at home...I love little pups, but I do kind of think they stay in toddler stage their entire lives, never feeding or taking themselves out for walkies...and I am so looking forward to a little bit of me time with my hubby, so I'm leaving the four legged friends for later on in my life, or maybe not... Oh and I have to say, we call freckles angel kisses too...my daughter's face is full of 'em! Lovely to see such a beautiful family all together! x

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

Beautiful photos!
Welcome Kai Francis! I can't wait to hear of all your adventures.

BeachGypsy said...

What a sweet baby doggie!!he sure is adorable!!




















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Heaven's Walk said...

Oh, it's so good to hear from you again, Tia! It's amazing how busy life gets as the years go by, isn't it? lol I've been a very bad blogger, too, and have neglected my humble little blog for the past 2 months. Summer's here on our farm pass by so quickly that I spend every available minute outside in my gardens. I figure there'll be time enough to catch up on blogging when the cold rains of autumn arrive....all too soon.

Your sweet little Kai is soooo adorable! I can see how he completely stole your heart. ♥ We chose our Maizie Grace the exact same way. She was the one in the back of her pack (in a kennel at the shelter), watching and waiting. She has been THE best dog we've ever loved, and she is now 12 yrs old. I keep praying that she'll live forever because she is just that perfect. :) She's the love of my life.

It looks like you are enjoying a beautiful summer out there! Sending you love and hugs, sweetie!

xoxo laurie

Sea Cottage said...

I have already decided that a new puppy or kitten will be my empty nest comfort too. I still have one son left in the nest. He just turned 20 and will transfer to UC in a year or two. He is the one studying Architecture. I remember that your son got a job in SF with one of the best Architect firms. I hope he is doing well. My daughter graduated from UC Berkeley in May but is finishing her last semester now. She will remain in the Bay Area working and beginning to pay off her loans! My son hopes to transfer to Cal. It isn't easy for us Mommas having our babies leave. I still miss mine. We are lucky that they come back to visit often too. Hugs to you and sweet Kai xo

La Petite Gallery said...

I am in love with the puppy and Cooper. Having a dog changes your life, I can't get enough of my 6 year old Shih tzu, he is so awesome and so soft and hug-able. They only want to please.
He has given me so much joy and love. This is my first visit. You have a beautiful family. yvonne